Learning how to stand like a lady with poise and elegance, can make you appear thinner, younger, healthier, and more feminine. It also helps to know how to stand in a pleasing way when you have a camera pointed at you, so as to be sure that you are going to be happy with the photo.
Differences between men and women
There is a clear difference between the stance of a man and that of a woman. A man desires to create strong and straight lines, while a woman seeks to create shape and curve in her stance.
Keeping the spine aligned
The first thing in learning how to stand like a lady should always be the health of your posture for your body. You do not want to adopt positions which are not beneficial for your spine. If you don’t look after your back, you will pay for it later.
Even though we are aiming to create an aura of curves and movement, there must still be correct alignment between her ears, shoulders, hips, knees, and ankles.
In order to check this, you can stand up against a wall with your head, shoulders, butt, and heels touching the wall. If you put your hand in the small of your back, you are aiming to have only about an inch or two clearance from the wall. You should also try to have a similar gap behind your neck.
Once you have focused on getting this stance correct, try to take a step away from the wall and maintain the correct posture.
Quick tips for how to stand like a lady
Since it would look a bit awkward for you to be putting yourself up against a wall when you are in public, here are some tips for you to think about when you are standing to help you keep the correct posture:
Head up: Imagine that there is a string pulling up on the top of your head. You should be able to feel that you gain an extra inch or two in height with this. If you feel this, then you are doing it correctly. Even better is that you actually are gaining that extra height.
Chest out: Your chest should be out and up, rather than just projecting itself forward which will put you off balance. You will find that this naturally pops you butt out ever so slightly, which helps to create a nice feminine line.
Stomach in: While we once had corsets to keep our stomach flab in check, we now need to rely on toning and tightening our stomach muscles. A woman naturally has a more rounded stomach than a man. We are not trying for a six-pack here, but we are trying to use your stomach muscles to support the core of your body.
Shoulders down: Women tend to carry their stress on their shoulders which result in the shoulders working their way up to the ears. It not only looks uncomfortable, it is uncomfortable for the body and sends a message to the world that you are strained. Effortless grace really takes a lot of effort in order to look effortless.
The finer graces how to stand like a lady with poise and elegance
Now that your posture is correct, you can start to work on some of the finer things which add that special feminine touch to your stance:
- Both knees and feet should face forward. This again keeps the line pleasing and feminine.
- Keep your arms close to the body, with a small gap between the body and the arms.
- Keep your weight on one leg and bend the other leg. This is especially important to remember if someone is taking a photo of you. A lady does not look attractive with two legs straight, side by side. Once you have the weight on one leg, you are free to move the other leg slightly in front of you to create a pleasing shape for the camera.
With all of these tips, you are sure to be able to strike a beautiful, feminine pose. You may also be interested in a related article How to Cross Your Legs Like a Lady.
Did you know that we run an online Feminine Foundations Program for those women who want to develop their feminine charms? In this program, we go through eight module of femininity: mindset, self-care, dress, style, poise, speech, etiquette, and personal development.
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